Porn Can Be Good for Us

Porn Addiction,  Porn Betrayal, Porn Interfering with a Good Sex Life,  ,  Porn  Promotes Violence and Harm to Women/Children, Porn is Sin .  (and I sigh….)

Recently many groups and professionals have been writing about the dangers of porn.

I will not deny the validity of some of these claims, yet I would also write:

Food Addiction, Financial Betrayal, Children in our Bed Nightly Interferes with a Good Sex Life,  Video Games May Promote Violence, Kiddie Pageants and Advertising Sexualize Our Girls,  Sin….thats something you must determine if its in your religious vocabulary.

My point being, many things in daily life can cause significant problems.

The anti-porn movement reminds me of the U.S. Prohibition starting in 1920 and lasting 13 years (and we all know just how successful that was in limiting consumption).  Yes alcohol can cause a lot of problems, yet to ban, criminalize, label as the devils juice,  because a portion of our population forms an addiction, is pure censorship and denial of our rights. Seriously, can you image it being illegal to enjoy a great Pinot Noir with a rich Italian meal, a nice cold beer with a hotdog at a baseball game, a margarita on girls night out ?

Lets make this even easier and look at book banning;  if some in our society had their way, we would not be reading Catcher and the Rye, The Diary of Anne Frank, A Brave New World (my favorite book), Adventures of Huckleberry Finn and so on.

Alcohol, a great read, and porn is part of our culture.

Many pundits discuss porn in relation to mens consumption and how it threatens marriage.

Lets immediately get away from the stereotype that is it men only watching porn as women are moving up the ranks in porn viewing.  “In the first three months of 2007, according to Nielsen/NetRatings, approximately one in three visitors to adult entertainment Web sites was female; during the same period, nearly 13 million American women were checking out porn online at least once each month.”  http://articles.cnn.com/2009-07-24/living/o.women.watching.porn_1_arousal-candida-royalle-explicit-sexual-imagery?_s=PM:LIVING

Then lets look at how porn allegedly threatens marriage.”A…spouse’s porn obsession was a factor in 56 percent of divorces” http://www.huffingtonpost.com/vicki-larson/porn-and-divorce_b_861987.html

If someone consumes porn to the point that it alienates their partner, then it is an issue.  If they prefer porn to partnered sex, yes it is a problem.

Yet, again I could say that about men who are workaholics, sport nuts, men who would rather be working in their garage than with their wives and ignore or minimize their partnerships.

Despite the rampant claims that porn does harm, a recent article in Scientific American The Sunny Side of Smut, “There’s absolutely no evidence that pornography does anything negative,” says Milton Diamond, director of the Pacific Center for Sex and Society at the University of Hawaii at Manoa. “It’s a moral issue, not a factual issue.”

“Contrary to what many people believe, recent research shows that moderate pornography consumption does not make users more aggressive, promote sexism or harm relationships. If anything, some researchers suggest, exposure to pornography might make some people less likely to commit sexual crimes.”

“It turns out that among porn viewers, the amount of porn each subject consumed had nothing to do with his or her mental state. What mattered most, Twohig found, was whether the subjects tried to control their sexual thoughts and desires. The more they tried to clamp down on their urge for sex or porn, the more likely they were to consider their own pornography use a problem. The findings suggest that suppressing the desire to view pornography, for example, for moral or religious reasons, might actually strengthen the urge for it and exacerbate sexual problems. It’s all about “personal views and personal values,” Twohig says. In other words, the effects of pornography—positive or negative—have little to do with the medium itself and everything to do with the person viewing it.”   http://www.scientificamerican.com/article.cfm?id=the-sunny-side-of-smut&page=2

Finally, some news that porn can be good for us.

We like porn because its HOT, erotic, arouses us.

I even ‘prescribe’ porn on occasion for my clients.  It opens our eyes, gets our juices flowing and can enhance our sex life with ourselves and our partners.

Watch.

Enjoy.

Plug in to your partner, give them some attention, release your sexual energies, and have fun.

About Anton Therapy

As a psychotherapist specializing in sexual concerns, I believe that communication and compromise, with a playful and open attitude are key components to a healthy intimate life. I infuse compassion, enthusiasm and a collaborative approach in treatment that puts clients at ease in discussing such personal topics. I hope this blog helps to open your mind, promote healthy sex, and encourages you to have a desire for intimacy and life! View all posts by Anton Therapy

One response to “Porn Can Be Good for Us

  • willcrimson

    There was a recent report (not so recent that I can google and link to it) confirming that men generally prefer porn (visual) whereas women prefer erotica (reading).

    Here’s one recent study.

    It seems to me there is little difference between pornography and ‘literary’ erotica – insofar as it’s effect goes. When is the last time a study was produced blaming erotic literature for divorces, societal chaos and immorality? The Romans seemed to have greatly enjoyed pornography if the frescoes at Pompeii are any indication. I wonder if those frescoes wrecked relationships and marriages?

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