Sex Scandals: Schwartzenegger, Edwards and Weiner

Sex Scandals are filling up the pages of electronic media, on air minutes, magazine covers, and even our nightly news.

Many experts are offering up their opinions and insights into the causes, effects,and reactions to infidelity and sexual acting out.  Today, I will not be one of the explanatory experts, yet instead a questioner.

A questioner of why our culture is so swept away in sexual scandals.

Why it is you buy the magazines, click on the web articles, and turn up the volume?

Is it our voyeuristic desires to see what others are doing behind closed doors so that we may feel less twisted in our own wishes?

A validation of our own indiscretions?

An affirmation of our ‘goodness’ in the face of such behavior?

An ability to judge the weakness of another?

Do we interest ourselves in the private lives of others just to side with the ‘least guilty’ party while damning the ‘guilty’ one?

Is our self-esteem boosted by the failing of another?

Is it our bedrooms, our relationships, or our political careers that are threatened? For 99% of us, the answer is No.

…Oh but it’s so Juicy, So Scandalist , Just So…… (you fill in the blank)

Why do we care?

We care that Arnold and his maid reportedly engaged in near daily romps for years with a child born out of their long-standing tryst?

How many politicians can we think of that had children with their mistresses?

Ode to love children: Strom Thurmond, the bigoted conservative South Carolina Senator, was in a  hot scandal with his ‘love child’ born from an African American mother.  Thomas Jefferson’s fathered several children with his slave, Sally Hemings.  Civil Rights leader, Jesse Jackson admitted to having a child from an extra marital affair.  Presidents Grover Cleveland and William J Hardy both were reported to have children out of wedlock.

Infidelity and ‘love children’ are not a 21st Century phenomenon.

We care that Mr. Weiner had an erection where one could see a distinct penile outline through his gray boxer briefs? Is this situation as new one? According to Bethanny Marshall a Marriage Therapist noted,  “Basically, people are engaging in the same fantasies and behaviors that they always have, but now they have the technology to back it up.”

Social Media and Technology make accessible all that previously would have been too far, too risky, or too obvious. Our ‘hidden’ and in Weiners case, ‘not so hidden’ sexual acting out.

Now Edwards situation, may cause reasonable social backlash from his campaign supporters whom hoped to see him win a Presidency and not to hide a love child or silence a mistress with their donated dollars. John Edwards is accused of improperly spending nearly one million dollars of campaign funds to keep his mistress and child out of sight during his White House bid.

Scandals at times appear synonymous with politicians.

Power, Sex, and Money. 

Our cultural fascination.

Are the reactions and/or interest in sexual scandals similar to our own morbid desires to slow down to see the damage from a tragic car accident?  Similar to our interest in seeing movie stars without their make up or previous athletes pack on an infinite number of pounds? Similar to watching horror films for the shock and awe, the squeal, the gasp, the commentary with our friends after.

Ohhhhhhh…..Lets take a look!

No, I don’t want to look (one hand only partially covering the eyes) but….We do.

We do look. We are curious.  Are interests are lifted.

One must acknowledge how the objects of our morbid curiosities have changed over this millennia, considering our past- where community entertainment covered public executions and arena sports filled with men and animals fighting to their deaths.

Considering such, I guess we have evolved.

Sexual scandals are merely a form of current social entertainment.

Yet, as long as it isn’t in our bedrooms, with our money, negatively effecting our choices, Who Cares!

It’s social amusement.

Buy your magazines, turn up the volume, gossip with your friends; sex scandals will never end.

As humans we will all continue to struggle with Power, Sex, and Money.

If you want, go look…you can.  But Who really cares?

About Anton Therapy

As a psychotherapist specializing in sexual concerns, I believe that communication and compromise, with a playful and open attitude are key components to a healthy intimate life. I infuse compassion, enthusiasm and a collaborative approach in treatment that puts clients at ease in discussing such personal topics. I hope this blog helps to open your mind, promote healthy sex, and encourages you to have a desire for intimacy and life! View all posts by Anton Therapy

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