Your Vulva as Your BFF

Summers Eve wants women to become bff’s with their vaginas,  to be a ‘side kick’,  and give some love to their ‘vertical smile’.   They have created a whole marketing campaign entitled “Hail to the V”

Giving your vulva some loving… I’m all for it!

Clean genitals, feeling good about your vulva, being open to pleasure in your sexual partnership as well as on your own with masturbation,  and lets take it up one level to say-Vaginal Hubris.

Yet to have a company create a need by basically saying ‘your vulvas so stinky you need my product to be clean and smell good’, give me a break!

Our society sends negative messages about the natural smell of a vulva.  I’m sure you’ve heard of fish tacos, crotch rot,  stinky mulholland, garbage water, and a smelly kelly.

A distinct sexual challenge many women experience with the negative social messages is that their vulva is unattractive and indeed foul smelling .  This limits women’s ability to fully relax while engaging in love play and receiving oral sex.  It is all too common of a discussion in my practice with statements such as, ‘I worry I smell’,  ‘I don’t think its attractive’,  ‘its yucky ‘down there’,  ‘he shouldn’t have to do that’ and basically  ‘gross’.

Despite the blatant fact that receiving oral sex can be very enjoyable, plus with the direct stimulation to the vulva and particularly the clitoris with your partners tongue and fingers, it can bring vast pleasure.

We deserve pleasure-  both giving and receiving.

Our genitals sweat: vulvas, penis/testicles and anal areas.

Genital cleanliness is important for both sexes, not just women.  Isn’t it interesting that we have so many words to describe unclean vulvas yet limited for men?

I don’t know many, if any women, who would be interested in providing oral sex to their male partner after they mowed the lawn in 90 degree temperature.

Can you say salty balls, cheese cock, monkey butt? (see I did think of a few words for males HA).

Fortunately, Jon Stewart and Stephen Colbert continue to Rally for Sanity in many areas including this one. The Colbert Report came up with a male version of the Summers Eve commercial.

Both men and women: Wipe down, clean off your genitals; you have no need for special products, grab your soap and washcloth and go have fun.

Lets gain some vulva confidence.

Men like women who feel good about their bodies, know what they like, and are open to pleasure.

Your vulva can be a BFF (even without Summers Eve products).

About Anton Therapy

As a psychotherapist specializing in sexual concerns, I believe that communication and compromise, with a playful and open attitude are key components to a healthy intimate life. I infuse compassion, enthusiasm and a collaborative approach in treatment that puts clients at ease in discussing such personal topics. I hope this blog helps to open your mind, promote healthy sex, and encourages you to have a desire for intimacy and life! View all posts by Anton Therapy

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