NFLsoup.com listed “Draft Tips for Success”, providing 12 tips to create your dream team.
As a sex therapist, I’d like to think these 12 steps can also aid us in our sexual fantasies.
As fantasy is a natural part of who we are; engaging in fantasy is arousing, creative, free and pleasurable.
Here’s the 12 fantasy football draft tips for both football fans with my version for our own private fantasies.
1. Don’t Wing It.
Strategy is important when selecting your team, yet in the role of fantasy:
Just think of the ease with which a new fantasy can enter our mind: walking down the street, sitting in the doctors office, attending a sporting event, and more.
The beauty in our environment can easily spark multiple fantasies per day.
Some will be fleeting, whereas others you can stock away for your fantasy file for later “use”.
In fantasy, as in life, we must manage our impulses.
Many times we can’t act when sexual thoughts comes to our mind.
When the time and place are right, go for it.
Enjoy the fantasy.
Experience the sensations and imagery you have created while skipping out on any robotic or habitual tendency.
Focus on the pleasure our mind and body can provide.
3. Don’t Worry about Bye Weeks.
Just as some of our favorite teams get a break.
Your mind may feel limited, your libido down, or you may struggle with an ability to “perform” with yourself or your partner.
Even the best of lovers have bad sex 15% of the time.
The more you obsess, the worst it can get.
Go with the flow, be patient with your self, and be open to pleasure not performance.
4. Get the Best Talent Available.
A common sexual fantasy is to have sex with a famous person.
We really CAN get the best talent available.
5. Keep your Options Open.
Some may feel uncomfortable fantasizing about someone other than their partner.
This is only problematic if it becomes an obsessive focus or you act on your fantasy, which may threaten a monogamous
So, if you can control yourself… grab healthy adult images that stimulate you and go for it.
This also applies to sexual behaviors which you may never dream of doing in real life yet turns you on during fantasy, such as an orgy, stranger sex, being tied up, spanked, or public sex.
When it stays in your mind, almost anything is an option.
6. Take Some Chances.
You both might decide to keep it private or even act out a fantasy, as long as it remains adult, consensual and respectful to all parties involved.
If you get turned on by costumes and would love to see your partner dressed as a cheerleader, let her know.
Taking a chance might lead to some fun exploration and add spice to your sex life.
7. Get a Rookie
The Internet offers a variety of images to stimulate our imagination.
Check out the new up and coming pornography stars or even amateur porn.
You might even want to ask your partner if they would be open to video taping your love play, that way, the rookie is you.
Get in bed, grab some champagne, and bring out the video recorder. (privacy is essential, pay attention to what you do with the video after)
8. Balance Beats Elite
If we use fantasy to frequently avoid our real life and our partner, it will likely lead to problems.
Fantasy, erotic imagery, and sex CAN be fully enjoyed in a balanced manner.
9. Wait Till the End for the Kicker
There doesn’t seem much difference between the top kickers and the average guy.
In fantasy football, you can relax a bit and choose the kicker in the end. I
n dating and relationships, don’t underestimate the beauty of seemingly average women.
An average kicker, can surprise us and win the game, an average woman may even win your heart.
10. Mock Mock Till You Drop
“Overall, practice makes perfect, so it only makes sense to practice drafting a few times before the real thing goes down.” nflsoup.com
Have fun with your “Practice”.
11. READ the Papers.
Study, educate yourself on good sexual health practices, and learn about our bodies.
Understand what are sexual myths and develop a realistic sexual view.
What a fun and important topic to keep up to date.
12. Have Fun!
What is sex without fun?
Enjoy your body.
Fantasy is fun…..as is football.
Have a blast with your fantasy football team, your fantasies, and your intimate life.
August 6, 2011