Catching Your Man…or the Average Joe at least.

Many tips discuss sexy outfits, flirtatiousness and being a challenge.

I, on the other hand, will add tips (some of them sexist…and yes I remain a feminist) to add to your chances of catching the man of your interest.

1. Set Realistic Expectations:

There is no man in shining armor.  If you want someone to rescue you, it will fail as only you can only rescue yourself.

No man is perfect.  He may be a knight in rusty armor: so look for smarts, sobriety, stability, humor, respect, openness, & playfulness. Pay attention to his history.  You can change no one, rescue no one.

No mate will ‘complete you’. Unlike the line in Jerry McGuire, “You complete Me”, its just a pipe dream.  A man can enhance your life, empower you, inspire you, care about you….yet not complete you.  You are responsible to fulfill yourself, complete yourself.  If you rely on another to meet all those needs, they will unfortunately fail you as no one person can do all that.

Constant Attention and Fawning is a NO GO.  If you want a slew of attention, then get it from multiple sources not just one person.  Yes we want a lot of attention from our date, partner, spouse, yet 100%  won’t happen.  They are not the fan club of one.

Different interest can enhance a relationship. Don’t mold to become a twin of your date. Be yourself. Have your own interest.   Share them, enjoy them on your own, keep that part of you.  Don’t lose yourself.

Your body is great just the way it is.  I hear too often in my practice, ‘well if I would loose a little weight’, ‘maybe if I got bigger boobs’, ‘why would he want to have sex with me with this body’.  If you change up your body, do it for health, do it because you feel good. You can have a ’10’ figure and your partner still may not be interested in you.  Remember beauty is not only on the outside.

Marriage isn’t happily ever after. Marriage is a lot of work.  It is not a destination.  Its is a life journey full of work, compromise, commitment, communication and hopefully lots of copulation. Yet the key word is work!  Stop chasing the ring. Chase your dream.  Enjoy your life with your partner.

2.Confidence and Smarts are Key

When you like who you are, know whats going on, and can have a decent intellectual conversation….you’re game!

No one wants a ding bat, a wimpy-whiney wendy, and a please validate that I don’t look fat in these jeans girl.

Have your own interests, hobbies, and friends.  Be independent.  Strive to learn. Participate in the community.  When you have these things, you open your self up to attraction.  Others will be attracted to you. Widen your circle, date, play.

Get educated, get smart, get confident!

3. Sex

This is another area where confidence and smarts will benefit you.

Don’t behave like your a raw piece of meat begging to be placed on his grill, saying ‘cook me’, ‘eat me’.  You don’t need to jump on the stripper pole, show you’re thong during the bend over, talk about giving the best blow job.  Take care of yourself, confidence exudes sexiness & be assertive NOT aggressive.  Just because he has sex with you doesn’t mean anything other than- you had sex.  Don’t use sex for validation.

Have sex because you’re interested, being safe (birth control), aware of the complications,want to share yourself with this person.

Enjoy your body and the pleasure it brings. Share yourself openly, respectfully, playfully.

Enjoy full body love play.

Feel confident in your sexual skills.  Enjoy giving as much as receiving.  Men like blow jobs; we like to see pleasure on our partners face.

Every man enjoys a confident and smart woman who loves giving blow jobs.

4. Food

We all love food.

Start cooking.

Enjoy food, savor it, cook it, eat it.

We all like a good cook, a great hostess, and eating with a partner who enjoys flavor, texture, complexity, wine pairings and more.  Plus who doesn’t love a nice full belly.

My mother used to say ‘The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach’, this has merit even today.

5. Football

You may not be a sports fan, yet if you open up and learn, you and your partner can have a great time together.  Attending sporting events has a fun social atmosphere, cheer, and is a great date.  Football is one of the best sports. Its exciting and  action packed!  Men on the field, tight pants, meaty muscles, sweat dripping down, Foh yeah….need I say more!  If football isn’t your thing, try out other sports, baseball, racing, basketball, and even golf.  Women who like the game, show game!

6. Genuineness and Fun

No need to put on an act, be yourself.

Have fun.

Be open to new experiences.

Tips to Catching Your Man:

1. Realistic Expectations

2. Confidence and Smarts

3. Sex

4. Food

5. Football/Sports

6. Genuineness and Fun

Have more tips?  Share!

About Anton Therapy

As a psychotherapist specializing in sexual concerns, I believe that communication and compromise, with a playful and open attitude are key components to a healthy intimate life. I infuse compassion, enthusiasm and a collaborative approach in treatment that puts clients at ease in discussing such personal topics. I hope this blog helps to open your mind, promote healthy sex, and encourages you to have a desire for intimacy and life! View all posts by Anton Therapy

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