Bed bugs not only like to have a lot of sex, they also appear to be into Sadistic Masochistic sex.
They engage in whats called Traumatic Insemination. The male bed bug pierces or stabs the female’s abdomen with his penis and injects his sperm through the wound and into her abdomen. I guess it ‘hurts so good’. (mind you males also attempt traumatic insemination with other male bugs due to size and color and not gender)
A humorous account of bed bug mating is enacted by Isabella Rosillini in Green Porno.
Female bed bugs mate five times after a feeding (on blood that is).
Five times in one night after a full belly….hmmm….impressive!!
Yet I hear frequent concerns when one partner wants to have sex five times in one week.
One partner will say ‘so & so….always wants it!’ and the other ‘so & so….never wants it!’.
It is common to have differing sex drives than our partner.
Couples experience a ‘syncing’ in sex drive during the beginning stage of the relationship, which is fuels by dopamine and adrenaline, as well a ‘re-syncing’ of sex in our longer term relationships on vacations.
We can look at statistics which give us a range for the 30+year old couple engaging in intercourse on average two to three times per week.
So more than 4x week is a sex maniac?
Despite this being the so-called average, ‘sex freak’/’cold fish’ titles can only be determined through the specific couples sexual style.
I’d like to get rid of these ridiculous labels all together and instead just acknowledge different drives.
How much sex is too much?
How much sex is not enough?
In handling sex drive differences, it is important to compromise.
The higher libido partner takes one step down and the lower partner takes a step up.
Added to this is respecting each others drives without labels or blame.
Open mindedness is vital to obtaining a sex drive balance.
An example of how to balance drives would be for one partner to nicely rub on the others chest and arms while he/she masturbates or the higher drive partner may use a sex toy after couple sex (a minute after or an hour after) if stimulation is still requested and your partner is wiped out.
Many more examples include incorporating some pornography,spicing up every day sex, engaging in low demand sexual behaviors, sex talk/texting and massage.
No maniacs, prudes or bed bugs allowed.