Category Archives: Sex ed

The Big “O”, The Female Orgasm

Providing answers to questions related to female orgasm:

Why does it take women so long before they have an orgasm?

Why do women fake it?

Did I have an orgasm?

Why aren’t my orgasms more intense?


Sex School

At many universities, the Human Sexuality course is often the most popular.  A student learns the ins and outs of sexual anatomy, STI’s, pregnancy/birth, dysfunctions, and even some historical and cultural aspects of sex.

Yet what about taking it to the next level?

From books to action.

Last year at Northwestern University,  an after class presentation in Human Sexuality, went ‘live’ with a masturbation demonstration.  This didn’t go over so well and now the course has been shelved.

What if you knew you were signing up for a Human Sexuality course that included both the books and the sex.

That is what is happening near Vienna Austria, with the opening of the world’s first “School of Sex”.

Ylva Maria Thompson, the school’s headmistress, announced the opening of the Austrian International School Of Sex (AISOS), the world’s first school of practical sexuality.

The website states, “AISOS is Europe’s first school geared towards the development of sexual skills and techniques. As opposed to most schools dealing with sexuality, AISOS’ core education is not theoretical, but very practical. ..The courses at AISOS cover everything from sexual techniques to the history of sexuality.

At AISOS we want you do develop practical skills that will change not only your life, but also the lives of the people you decide to partner with.

In short, we teach the art of giving and receiving sexual pleasure.”

Check out their website: http://www.aisos.at

The website provides information in both German and English.

A few things came to mind when I found out about this new ‘sex school’:

One –  I lived in Vienna, Austria in 1993, obviously 19 years too early to attend the school- darn!!

I was lucky enough to visit Amsterdam a few times and that’s a sex thrill or ‘schooling’  just roaming the streets.

Two- Why didn’t I keep up to date on my German (as classes are held only in the German language).

Three-  I just accepted an adjunct professor position….maybe I should apply to AISOS.  To which I quickly said to myself, ‘Oh yes, I have a family and a business, and in particular a husband who I’m certain would much rather have me teach a school work class than lead a live sex presentation.’

Nevertheless, this new sex school is cutting edge to promoting sexual pleasure and education.

In the headmistress column, it states Macnab’s first three objectives of sex education are:

1. To make affection, sex, and love a constructive rather than a destructive force in modern society.

2. To develop feelings of self-identity, self-respect, and moral responsibility as an integral part of their personality and character development.

3. To understand and appreciate the sexual side of human nature psycho-sexual development may occur as normally and healthily as possible without feelings of indecency, embarrassment or undue guilt.

Sounds good to me.

Books AND Action.

Hopefully one day soon, I will return to Vienna and visit the school, for research and observation of course.

Would you sign up?                                                                                                                                                                    I would.


Sex: “The Female Orgasm”

Discussing the female orgasm.  Stimulation, Timing, Communication, Pleasure and Fun.

Did I say, ‘direct clitoral stimulation’, Ahhh yes I believe I did.

Here’s to smart, safe, fun sex and hopefully an orgasm.


Birthday Sex

It only comes around once per year- You’re Birthday.

Want some Birthday Sex?

Jeremiah’s ‘Birthday Sex’ song lyrics, ” Don’t need candles or Cake, just need my body to make…Birthday Sex…We grindin with passion, cuz its yo birthday, Been at it for hours….I know you thirsty, You kiss me so sweetly….taste just like Hersheys, Just tell me how you want yo gift girl…Birthday Sex”

There is no hinting around in this song, he knows you want it.

Don’t we even feel a little entitled to sex on our birthdays?

It seems many would like some cake and……some more.

According to Urban Dictionary they define Birthday Sex as:

Obligation-free sex which happens on or around someone’s birthday. Usually initiated by the birthday boy/girl’s partner, and involving a mix of acts which more favour the birthday boy/girl’s preferences.

The usual rules of reciprocation and mutual pleasure are temporarily suspended, and the birthday girl/boy is considered free to cum whenever and wherever the fuck they please.’

Oh My, selfish sex on your birthday…..maybe it’s the one time of year you can do it without being viewed as an inconsiderate lover.

Birthday Sex:

It is a free gift.

It is focused on the Birthday girl/boy, and tends to bring a lot of pleasure.

It is a hot gift.

A giving gift.

Its a sexy gift.

Its in your birthday suit gift.

Yep, I’d say it is ‘The Gift’.

So if its your Birthday:     Place your request,     enjoy getting your candles blown out,    your frosting spread,    your mouth full…..for this kind of sex only comes around once per year.

And yes, it is my Birthday!


Masturbation in the Library

I heard recently that our local  librarian had to remind a patron that masturbation was not allowed in the library.

Doesn’t that go without saying?!?!

Libraries are wank free zones.

It brought up a memory from high school when I was doing research on the artist Paul Gauguin, a Post Impressionist painter who was inspired by Peruvian women, culture and landscape.

Of course our high school library had no information on this artist, therefore it lead me to the Ball State University library to complete my research.

After discovering the location of the Gauguin books, I wandered to the correct aisle.

To my surprise, a couple was engaged in missionary position intercourse on the floor.

They looked up a me, grinned and continued.  You may ask…..what did I do?

Well, I went to the next row, created a space between the books and watched.  They were fully dressed with the exception of their pants just below their bums.  Seeing this all at the uber mature age of 16.

Say Voyeur…..I guess.  It was more curiosity and shock.  I waited for the couple to finish, and returned to the required aisle to grab my intended books.

In my naivety,  I even informed my mother to her wide eyed horror. That was one hell of a research experience.  It did not make me a fan of Gauguin, or the Ball State library, it only created a surprising adolescent experience.

A few years back, library masturbation was a persistent problem by one individual in particular at Tufts University.   According to the Tufts Daily paper, “The Tufts police talked to the man and determined that he did not know that his behavior was offensive,” Deuerlein said. “They thought that he might have a medical condition. They asked him to leave the building and find another place because there had been a complaint.”

Just yesterday an Iowa City man was caught masturbating in the Children’s Section while sitting near two teenage girls.     “Police said (49 year old) Rodriguez admitted to being in the children’s section and scratching his groin area, which caused him to become aroused.  Rodriguez faces a single count of indecent exposure.”

As a masturbation advocate,  lets remember privacy and respect for others are key.  Use the imagery you may see in public, put it in your erotic mind file, and take it back home with you.

The library will remain a masturbation free zone.

Enjoy your wanking.

Just make it private.


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