Category Archives: Sex Scandals and Pop Culture

Fifty Shades of……Addictive Erotica

“Fifty Shades of Grey” by E.L. James, is a hit!

A New York Times Bestseller

What does this book have that makes it so addictive?

Its Steamy!

Its Hot!

And you’ll want  to  show just how obedient you can be in the Red Room of Pain.

Some are saying its a ‘marriage saver’.

I say,  reading erotica assists women in connecting to their sexual selves and therefore, are feeling horny and acting upon it.

Marriage saver – no.

Heating up your sex life- Yes.

The theme of innocent yet sassy and beautiful female with the over bearing uber handsome male who both fawns over and controls her – is ages old.

This book is a hit in thanks to Twilight fans,  the viral effects of social media, site, and our ease of access via Kindle or Nook.

I purchased Fifty Shades of Grey on my Kindle and within the first day consumed 7 hours of this novel.

Cooking and reading.

Laundry and reading.

Feeding the dog and reading.

Cozy in my pajamas and reading.

I wanted more….and more.

Not more of the whimpy, over-thinking, immature, self doubting,  22 year old Anastasia.  Or the overt power hungry attempting to rewrite childhood trauma through being the sadistic dominant,  27 year old Christian.

But the dynamic of  lust, wantonness, raw sexual arousal,  pure passion, intensity, and libidinal insanity.

More Christian Grey.

Dominating me.

Adoring me.

Spanking me.

Ravishing me.

Opening the orgasmic floodgates of my most hidden desires.

In Chapter 25, Anastasia and Christian are in the Red Room of Pain, as he blasts Forty Part Motet by Thomas Tallis

‘Kneeling by the door, I am naked except for my panties. My heart is in my mouth….Anticipation runs bubbling like soda through my veins.  What will he do? I take a deep steadying breath, but I cannot deny it, I’m excited, aroused, wet already….’
After a full body fur mitt rubdown and then a good flogging, Christian’s, ‘nose and lips…running down my neck and throat, kissing and sucking…trailing down to my breasts, Ah! Taunting each of my nipples in turn…his tongue swirling round one while his fingers relentlessly tease the other….”
‘He’s kneeling up between my legs…and in one swift, slamming move, he’s inside me….oh fuck…and I cry out again. The quiver of my impending orgasm begins….’
If you can put down your feminist, rational self, and accept its poorly written, with ridiculous scenarios, absurd plotlines ……you won’t be able to stop reading it.
I even thought it could be a possible drinking game.
Called Orgasm Drunk.
Each time Anastasia has an orgasm, have a drink.
After one hour, you’ll be tipsy if not more.
Put on your reading glasses, the kids are in school, open up the ultimate Mommy Porn.
This book is addictive erotica.

Naughty Newt

“Newt Gingrich is so pro-marriage, he can’t stop doing it. He is so morally upright, that he’s only had sex after he was married. Just not always to the woman he was married to.” —Stephen Colbert

“In a new interview, Newt Gingrich says he cheated on two of his wives because he was too consumed with love for his country. Yeah, apparently he misunderstood the phrase, ‘Please rise for the Pledge of Allegiance.'” —Conan O’Brien

By now, most of us are aware of the recent snafu at the Republican Primary Debate where moderator John King opened the event by asking Newt Gingrinch about his ex-wife’s claim that he asked her for an open marriage.

Fireworks at CNN Debate

In my opinion, the only reason this story is relevant is due to Newt’s strong stance on traditional family values.

I had no care that President Clinton received oral sex by another while married.  His sexual behavior did not affect me and it should not have affected our country.

But we’re a sex obsessed culture, who feeds off  scandals, and does an excellent job distracting us from real life concerns.

I am even  a proponent for open marriage as an alternative to traditional monogamy, so why am I bothered about Newt?


The whole ‘practice what you preach’ philosophy.

We have seen over and over again the ones admonishing sex in society,  are in deed acting out on those same admonishments.

Ted Haggard.

Jimmy Swaggart.

Jim Bakker.

Senator David Vitter.

Larry Craig.

George Alan Rakers.

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I selected the above men due to the wonderful mix of sex, religion and politics (three of my favorite topics).

Yet this can be a toxic mix if your message or values oppose your own behavior.

The Kings of Hypocrisy.

If you want to take a stand on a topic such as traditional marriage, I assume you are also engaging in such a  marriage yourself.

Newt- I can care less how you get your rocks off,  just get off your soap box.

When marriage rights are prevented to gay and lesbian couples because supporters such as the Duplicitous Newt Gingrinch emphasize marriage is ‘supposed’ to be between one man and one woman.

Then hypocrisy flourishes while human rights are denied, judged, demoralized.

Newt, get honest, live your life as you wish.

Be a Naught Newt.

Leave your bedroom politics out of our homes, relationships and our country.  Leave traditional marriage to those who wish you have one and give others the right to be in one.

Divorce, Schivorce….Give Me a Break

One of the latest Hollywood couples to call it quits is Katy Perry and Russell Brand.

What may have led to the demise of their marriage after only 14 months?

The tabloids report possible marital concerns with Brand’s flirty behavior at his recovery meetings (such a great place to pick someone up!), his kinky sex life (allegedly turned on by sex with men in wheelchairs), his emotional unavailability, and her vigorous touring/traveling schedule.

Sometimes, I ask, why are we even surprised or care for that matter?

Yet, frustration abounds when it appears the lack of effort and seriousness people place on their marriage.

Marriage can be a bear, or a bitch for that matter at times, but its worth the work.

We cannot know the truth about the Perry/Brand marriage or the real reasons behind their split.  We can, however, look at a more global marital experience and say – if abuse, harm, or danger did not occur in the marriage, doesn’t it deserve more time, effort, and behavior change from both parties to see the potentials in self growth and the possibility of improved couple cohesion.

A spouse will not ‘complete you’ or be a saving grace nor create your happiness.

They can however, push us to grow, explore who we are, support us in our passions and in our difficult times, enhance our own happiness, add more laughter to our life, light a fire under our behinds when we need it and add some heat in the bedroom.

The epitome of marital collapse at warp speed is the Kim Kardashian/Kris Humphries total of 72 days of marriage. 

Is that even enough time to engage in couples counseling, seek spiritual guidance, allow time to actually work through their problems?   I think not.

Time, effort, and support are key to working through conflict.

Patience, respect, and flexibility help us get there.

We live in a culture of immediate gratification; the view that our spouse is to be our perfect soul mate, to meet all of our needs, and to be a continual source of happiness.

These are obviously unrealistic expectation of any partner.

Spouse’s aren’t perfect, and neither are we.

So give me a break.

Quickie marriages, quickie divorces.

Marriage can be a bear….Deal with it!

A great article on thinking twice about divorce is from Dr. Margaret Paul at InnerBonding:

Porn on a Plane

Not Snakes or Samuel Jackson just porn,  Porn on a Plane.

Ryanair, a European airline, uses sex appeal and low prices to win customers and even over come big names such as Aer


“In 2008, O’Leary famously said that business class on Ryanair’s long-haul flights would include “beds and blowjobs” at a press conference.”

The company’s tendency to use sex to sell is now going to a whole new level with their proposal of  a scandalous new in-flight app that will allow passengers to screen porn at 30,000 feet.

According to The Sun, the proposed app for iPads or smartphones would allow passengers to play games, gamble or even watch raunchy movies. “Hotels around the world have it, so why wouldn’t we?” Ryanair CEO Michael O’Leary told the paper. He also noted that he wouldn’t be broadcasting porn on seat-back TVs.

If the plan ever takes off, it’s estimated that it would take a year to implement.”

In flight, one can already pop a DVD into their computer and watch what they may or even pay for Wi-Fi to access the internet and pornography.

O’Leary noted the success of porn in the hotel industry.

Is it surprising that airlines are wanting to cash in too?

Fifty percent of hotel guests, purchase pornography during their overnight stay which  accounts for nearly 70 percent of major hotel  in-room profits.

Would the airlines have a similar response?

The obviously big difference between a plane and a hotel room is of course privacy.

If a man or woman accessed porn while in flight, others would be able to view the screen.

This gentlemen created a unique version of privacy through his sweater.

Makes you wonder what he’s watching.

Although pornography is easily accessible and has high personal interest and popularity, there remains a time and a place, which in my opinion does not include a plane.

So Good Luck Ryanair, if you can get  privacy and porn, make sure you include some napkins, if not, just scrap the whole idea.

On the extreme end of pornography, privacy, and planes, a Utah man has been accused of watching child porn on a Delta flight from Salt Lake City to Boston this past Saturday.

Forty-seven year-old, Grant Smith, of Cottonwood Heights, Utah, a decorated science and engineering professor at the University of Utah, ‘was sitting in first class when a fellow passenger saw the pornographic images on Smith’s laptop and told flight crew, the Associated Press reports”.

Mr. Smith pleaded not guilty to child porn charges in a Boston court.  “Prosecutors said a flyer seated behind Smith in the first class cabin of the Salt Lake City to Boston flight spotted the pervy prof looking at kiddie porn on his MacBook and snapped a pic. The unidentified flyer then texted his son to call Massachusetts state cops before alerting the Delta crew, the Boston Globe reported.  A flight attendant asked Smith to close his laptop, but he was later seen scrambling to delete files from his computer, the Globe said.

Mr. Smith evidently didn’t have the clever sweater to hide his devious crime and fortunately an adult witnessed his behavior and reported him.  Child porn- always a bad idea and the epitome of a heinous crime. Porn on a plane- ust a  general bad idea.

I’ll pass on snakes, porn and even the over exposed Samuel Jackson, on a plane.

Give me a few sodas, some peanuts and a smooth ride  and I’m one happy passenger.

Sex Sells: Bibi Jones, Courtesans and Geishas

According to the Daily Mail, an agent at one of America’s biggest sports agencies is accused of using a porn star, Bibi Jones of such films as “Naughty Nannies 3” and “Amateur Action”, to help him recruit new players for his agency.

“Porn star Bibi Jones claimed in an interview that she used to accompany Gaylord Sports Management agent Terry Bross to bars where he would talk to baseball players that he was hoping to sign.”

Bibi reports  sleeping with at least 10 of the baseball players she met over the course of a year through Mr. Bross, on her own accord, and without pay. ” ‘I was willing to do it,’ she said. ‘It wasn’t even expected for me to hook up with these guys. It was just like I was arm candy for him.'”

The underlying theme here is about businesses utilizing prostitutes to secure deals.

Does this surprise anyone?

It happens, right here in America.

It may be a car, an exorbitant amount of money, a vacation or a prostitute.  Businesses use pleasure and thrill to secure the person or the deal.

This alluring and ‘rewarding’ approach to business is even more formalized in other countries.

  Currently, many Asians countries customarily provide a prostitute to solidify business deals.  It is even considered an offense if you do not accept the ‘gift’.

Most of us are aware of the beauty, entertainment and skill of the Japanese Geisha.

A culturally accepted and highly sought after woman of talent and knowledge that included skill in the bedroom.

Traditional Japan embraced sexual delights and men were not constrained to be faithful to their wives. The ideal wife was a modest mother and manager of the home and love had secondary importance. For sexual enjoyment and romantic attachment, men did not go to their wives, but to courtesans. ”

“In modern day,… Geishas can be compared to as cultural hostesses who have the power to move Japanese men’s desire in a profound way.”  Geisha’s and maiko’s are now a rare sight outside hanamachi. In the 1920s, there were over 80,000 geisha in Japan,but today, there are far fewer. The exact number is unknown to outsiders and is estimated to be from 1,000 to 2,000, mostly in the resort town of Atami. A sluggish economy, declining interest in the traditional arts, the exclusive nature of the flower and willow world, and the expense of being entertained by geisha have all contributed to the tradition’s decline.

It is through cultural acceptance that the worlds oldest profession became legitimate.

This cultural acceptance is seen throughout history particularly with the famous courtesans of Europe as well as in Hellenistic society .

A female courtesan and prestigious male were viewed as simply an affair of benefits gained for both those involved. Publicly and socially, affairs of this sort were common in Europe during the 17th, 18th and 19th centuries, as well as the early 20th century, and were generally accepted in wealthy circles.

There were many famous courtesans in history, one of which is Diane de Poitiers (3 September 1499 – 25 April 1566) was a French noblewoman and a prominent courtier at the courts of kings Francis I and his son, Henry II of France. She became notorious as the latter’s favourite mistress. It was in this capacity that she wielded much influence and power at the French Court, which continued until Henry was mortally wounded in a tournament accident, during which his lance wore her favour (ribbon) rather than his wife’s.

The powerful influence of courtesans, who owe their existence largely to the Catholic Church, has flown unseen in the courts and commerce of  Europe for centuries. Sex was their currency.

There is a difference between a mistress and a courtesan—and that is love. Courtesan sold herself, body and mind, as a career. A mistress gave away her love, and often had children with her lover. Now that’s not to say a courtesan couldn’t become a mistress, but then she wouldn’t be a courtesan anymore.

When we look at the strong historical significance and social acceptance (even if it was a double edge sword) of courtesans, mistresses and geisha; we see a stark contrast to our current puritanically influenced society where extra marital affairs, mistresses, and prostitution is shunned and condemned.

The 20th and 21st centuries changing view of the skilled, sexual, available female has increased social stigma, encouraged divorce through the hyper-focus on monogamy and can be a hindrance in our  sexual expression.

Could Bibi Jones be a modern day courtesan, who inspires with her beauty, titillates the male senses, and utilizes her sexual skills to pleasure others?

I am uncertain.

What I do know is that women’s sexuality has influenced our world for centuries, socially, academically and even in times of war.  When we place taboos and stigmas to a historically accepted practice, we lose a part of the fabric of our diverse culture.

When we normalize the ways of the business world in past and in the current context, whose goal is to allure and secure potential clients, we will accept that not only money, the promise of fame, vacations, material items and more, influence our social and business transactions, but the powerful role of sex will continue to play an important part.

Bibi may not pass as a courtesan, yet sexual currency cannot be denied as influential in today’s business world.

Bibi’s eye candy and her sexual actions may have influenced a few baseball players to sign on with Gaylord Sports Management.  That was what they wanted, Right?

To allure, pursue and obtain the clients or items that will further their business or social agenda.

Sex Sells.

Are you buying?

Business is.

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