Many have speculated on Chicago Bears Quarter Back, Jay Cutlers, football performance for this upcoming season
All eyes are watching….will he flop (yes I know he was injured) as he did in last seasons NFC championship game?
He was off the field after only one series (yes I know its preseason, but most of us wanted a least a little more of his time on the field).
According to AP Writer Andrew Seligman, “The way Cutler was running around, it sure felt like last season. Sacked a league-leading 52 times a year ago, there wasn’t much he could do Saturday with the defense bearing down on him. At least this one didn’t end with a knee injury or with the outside attacks on his toughness, as his previous appearance at Soldier Field…”
To top that off, the Bears Beat noted Cutler in their “Hall of Shame” statistic: “FOX displayed a graphic that noted that Cutler is the first Bears quarterback in franchise history to pass for more than 3,000 yards in consecutive seasons, which he did between 2009 and 2010. That clearly defines just how bad quarterbacking has been in this city for so long because that statistic is awful. Some franchises have consecutive 3,500- to 4,000-yard passers these days.”
Even with a Bears win, Cutler remains under the microscope for his performance.
Three more preseason games to go before his official launch on September 11th against the Falcons.
That’s when we’ll see Cutler’s real performance.
Aren’t you glad you aren’t under such pressure (maybe you wouldn’t mind with his paycheck)?
Yet, sometimes you ARE under such pressure; its just different circumstances with less viewers, limited critics, and a few fans.
Its the pressure men place on themselves in the bedroom, on their sex life!
Imagine being Cutler and having a whole field, sport pundits, fans and TV viewers to rely on you, grade your performance, and even let others know their full opinion of your game play.
Luckily, in our sex lives, its a much more private affair. Despite this privacy, men tend to put high pressures on themselves as if they were in Cutlers shoes.
The pressure is on!
You may be thinking of:
Your erection (will it get up, come on get up, whats your problem! better stay hard, better use it quick before it goes down)
Your ability to orgasm or not to orgasm too quickly (don’t cum, don’t cum, wait, wait….oops)
Whether you’re partner is enjoying the sex
Will you get more sex
Will she/he be pleased
Will you have the right moves (your hands, tongue, mouth, penis)
So we’re lucky, limited viewers, low pressure, with the only exception…..the pressure you place upon yourself.
Penises can be like adolescents, if you tell them to do something, they often want to do just the opposite.
If you focus so much on an erection, your penis will make up his own stubborn mind and it often isn’t the answer you want.
If you are worried about ejaculating then you have again started the mind game that takes your focus off of your partner, your pleasure, enjoyment and satisfaction, and instead on the ‘end result’.
If the only goal of sex was to have an orgasm, most of us would just stick with masturbation, as an orgasm is near guaranteed with ourselves.
We want sex with others because it heightens our pleasure, our experience and adds a whole new dimension.
Switch your brain to these questions:
Does this feel good?
Do I like this touch/stimulation?
Am I enjoying touching my partner?
Is this fun/passionate/open/respectful?
If you answer YES to these questions, then performance is OUT of the window and pleasure is IN!
You. The Ball. The Team. The PLAY.
In the bedroom, it is best to focus on:
You. Your Partner. Pleasure. PLAY!
So lets excitedly watch the Bears this season.
Jay Cutler will do whatever he can do, even with the pressure. (cautiously optimistic)
You on the other hand can choose if pressure is a part of your style…..or if you would rather choose PLEASURE.